Values & Goals that guide our work
To help you divorce well.
To keep you out of court.
To help you and your family travel
through the divorce process with dignity,
honesty, respect, communication, and a
forward-looking mindset.
What do we do?
We meet families at a point of crisis (sifting + change) and help them sort through the rubble in a thoughtful, respectful, dignified, healthy, structured way. We help them find the pieces of the rubble that matter most and then start to plan what two new buildings will look like, using those rocks as foundations. We use our many years of training and experience to give advice, suggestions, structure, support, cheerleading, resources, and guidance.
We ultimately seek to have each family leave our practice with a binding Separation Agreement to help give legal security and a road map through future speed bumps. We terminate the legal marriage and provide ongoing support and legal advice to families as long as is needed.
How do we do it?
We limit the collateral damage of divorce. We use smart, tested processes to guide families to find their foundations and advise them on how to build again. We see the false idols of conflict and blame and avoidance and guide folks away from that and back to their core. We use a whole lot of handouts and systems and technology to make it a streamlined process. We also listen much better than over-worked adversarial lawyers.
Whom do we do it for?
We do it for divorcing folks who are lucky enough to be in a position to collaborate with their spouse and their lawyer to craft their best divorce. Our methods work best for divorcing spouses who can sit in the same room together and talk through things that are sometimes ugly and often delicate and do so with mutual respect. You should value co-parenting, communication, emotional health, and feel like you’re ready to have the hard talks, to untangle the knot.
Boundaries & guiding principles:
we are an anti-racist, lgbtq-affirming, anti-sexist, woman-led practice. we see that our world and our social structures have all sorts of unfair biases and hierarchies that don’t serve any of us and especially disenfranchise some. we work to actively disrupt these structures.
when we walk families through divorce we are mindful of the many ways in which social structures may have contributed to the interpersonal dynamics between a couple during their marriage and during their divorce. we’re also mindful of the ways in which the law can be biased and unfair and intimidating. we promise to try to find the best way through for you and your specific family’s circumstances.