A wonderful aspect of divorce law in North Carolina is that you can resolve all of the legal issues surrounding your divorce without stepping foot into a courtroom. You and your spouse can work together to decide what custody, child support, spousal support, and equitable distribution of your assets and debts will look like for your family, rather than having a judge make those decisions for you.
There are various processes to help you and your spouse come to an agreement, with varying degrees of help from an attorney or two, and varying degrees of contact between you and your spouse.
A Separation Agreement is a legal, binding, enforceable contract between you and your spouse which puts your divorce resolutions into writing. I can draft this document for you, and help in negotiating and understanding the terms that you decide to have within it. You and your spouse can create the terms of a Separation Agreement through mediation, collaborative divorce, or some form of negotiation with or without the help of an attorney.
If you and your spouse need help communicating to discuss your divorce settlement, I can mediate a series of discussions between you to help you arrive at an agreement that works for you. Mediation is a complicated and beautiful process, and should be performed with the help of someone like me who is trained in the ways to make difficult conversations possible and productive. I would serve as a neutral third party to guide communication and would not represent either of you.
Collaborative divorce is a unique and awesome way to divorce. You, me, your spouse, and your spouse's collaborative attorney work through the issues of your divorce together in the same room. We can bring in mental health professionals or a financial planner if needed. This method can take 4 or more sessions of working together to resolve all issues with non-violent communication and compromise. You and your spouse will be really supported in this effective, direct, and dignified process.
A common way to arrive at a Separation Agreement is through some form of negotiation. Whether it be "kitchen table" talks between you and your spouse, or a back-and-forth of drafts with the help of an attorney or two, negotiation would be a civil, respectful process where you and your spouse come to an agreement about how your family will transition from one unit to two.